On Wednesday, July 21, 2021 we did something that has been years in the making. We met with Rhiyan’s college counselor and school principal to confirm her intent to graduate early. As I always say, this is her plan and I’m just here to be a supportive mom. And that’s what I’m doing. I’m very proud of this journey she set out for herself and what she’s accomplished so far. Now starts the real work of being a senior in high school.

But what happens after this year? Once the commencement ceremony is over and the open house/graduation celebration is complete, what will be next for me as a mom?

Being a mom was somewhat unexpected at the time but happily received. I had recently finished college and was in my first paid job. I had just started graduate classes and was grooming myself for a career in sports marketing. I also was still grieving my own mother’s passing so there was a lot happening mentally with me. But I felt ready to accept this new responsibility, even as a single parent.

I put so much into being everything for Rhiyan, I think I lost a bit of myself in the process. So now it’s time to explore me again. And I know I’m not the same as 25 year old Kelli was. 16 years later, I’ve learned a number of life lessons and I’m ready to learn more with a focus on ME!

Travel

Can you imagine a trip where your itinerary is based solely on what you want to do. Take a solo trip to that island on your bucket list and enjoy the King sized bed for a weekend. It’s important as moms to have time away from our kids. I’m the first to acknowledge not doing this more. Will you feel mom guilt? Probably, but this is your time to shine. We let society dictate the role of motherhood for so long. If you’re not truly ready to venture out of state or the country, rent a hotel near home for a couple nights. Order room service and read the book you’ve been trying to read for the past two months. And once the mom guilt has passed, make plans for the next adventure. I know where I’m planning my first solo trip.

Take Classes

I’ve always wanted to get another college degree. Working full time plus being a mom, I felt the little that was available went to making sure I got enough sleep to be able to properly function the next day. I am a promoter of continuous learning. Now days, you don’t actually have to step foot on a college campus to expand your knowledge if you don’t want to. But look into something to continue to make yourself better.

If you haven’t heard of Skillshare yet you’re missing out. Anyone can join Skillshare and who knows if you get hooked like most, you can even become a teacher. Skillshare empowers people to advance their careers, improve their lives, and pursue the work they love. Classes range from beginner to expert in categories such as Graphic Design and Photography, which are my favorites. As well as Finance, Marketing, Web Development, and Health & Wellness.

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Try New Foods

I joke and say once Rhiyan is out of the house, my grocery bill will be cut in half. I know this isn’t true as I’ll be sending care packages to wherever she is and most likely adding money to her bank account for “snacks”. But there will be opportunities to try out new fancy dishes for one or recipes I know she didn’t like. I’m sure I’ll stick to the regular routine for a while, but guacamole is going to become a staple dish in the refrigerator next year.

Depending on where your child attends college or moves on to start their “adult” life, they may offer suggestions to you of things to try.

Dating

This is a tough one for me. I’ve been single for a while now. And at a certain point, I stopped actually going out on dates. I made the decision to focus on myself. You know the saying you can’t pour from an empty cup, well that was me. How could I be part of a partnership when as an individual I wasn’t fully ready. And I’m still not. LOL So more likely I’ll be dating myself. Movie nights, maybe learn how to play chess and enter a beginner’s tournament, or just enjoy a night alone on the beach. But for those of you that are ready, go ahead and step out.

Relax

Momma you deserve it! This accomplishment is just as much yours as it is theirs. Enjoy the last days together before they go out and start their own adventures.